Lame dudes, nobody likes it when you play on their phone, it is not cute and you are not funny, It is fucking annoying, and when you factor in that almost all women have been harassed or stalked it’s potentially triggering. If you text a girl that you once gave your number to and she responds “Who is this?” you can safely assume you’ve been deleted from her phone. Everyone’s contacts are backed up these days and we all know “new phone who dis” is a polite lie to tell a number you deleted. If a woman isn’t even bothering to tell you polite lies, you should fuck off immediately. What you should definitely not do, is avoid the question and start making pregnancy jokes. You have to be a fucking idiot to make pregnancy jokes in front of women at all. If you had the capacity to think outside yourself, you might consider that a lot of women find pregnancy terrifying, have had abortions, or traumatically miscarried.
Another thing you should definitely not do, is once blocked, jump to another platform to contact the person who blocked you. Which of course, is exactly what fuckboys who feel entitled to be heard out, do. This fuckboy in particular decided to go from text to DMing me on Twitter to tell me who he was. I immediately flagged him as spam and his DMs evaporated into the internet abyss before I could screenshot them. Once he lost his ability to text or DM me, he thought it was a good idea to text me from a different number I had yet to block.
Men who feel entitled to your time and attention have this awful habit of acknowledging your rejection and then thinking that acknowledging it, makes it okay to continue to pester you. Notice how dude claims he understands why I blocked him, YET CONTINUES TO BLATHER ON ABOUT HIMSELF. Let’s get this straight fuckboys, acknowledging your shittiness doesn’t give you a pass to continue being shit. It should, in fact, make you want to reflect and STOP IT. But that would be too much to ask of a fuckboy. A fuckboy isn’t into bettering himself as a human, he’s just into himself, thus he will make excuses for his shittiness (”just out of a 2 year relationship”), and continue to feel entitled to your attention (”if you could just try not to hate me I can still imagine that we are friends”). This fuckboy seriously felt it was okay to harass me across multiple platforms because he felt entitled to being coddled through his breakup. So, I did what any rationally self interested woman would do, I sent him a payment method and blocked his second number.
I love telling men who tug on my sleeve for attention, to pay me. It accomplishes one of two things, either they go away, or they pay me. It’s a win for me either way. This desperate fuckboy however, in the throes of self involvement, thought it would be a better move to switch platforms yet again, this time to Tumblr, and continue to message me.
After basically being told to pay or fuck off, this douche chose neither and instead decided it would be best to explain at length why paying me, a woman whose time he has been wasting by harassing for attention, would be offensive to his fuckboy sensibilities because paying is just not something he does. Mind you, this is a privileged white boy from San Francisco whose family has money. I know this because I recall him talking about his family’s money A LOT. One of the only things I vividly recall about him was he excused not buying me a wishlist gift by saying he’s more the type to buy my entire wishlist rather than just one thing. I clearly remember thinking how embarrassing it was of him to say that. I liken it to a guy pulling up to the valet in a luxury car and not leaving a tip - you’re trying to stunt and portray yourself as generous, but really you’re cheap with no regard for others.
Fuckboys and time wasters love this move that I call “Dangle the Carrot”. They mention the only thing you want from them in hopes that it’ll coax you into continuing to deal with them, all while making weak ass excuses about why they can’t or won’t deliver. Their self excusing fuckery is so textbook that it literally follows a formula. In this case, “I would totally cash out all my $$ and assets to you but Mac Dre would turn over in his grave if I paid a bitch”. Oh really fuckboy? You would totally give me everything you have but a dead rapper your rich privileged whiteboy ass idolizes told you not to? Seems legit.
He goes onto explain that he won’t pay because the idea of it makes him feel bad. At no point does he stop and consider that he has made me feel bad. At no point does he stop and think that he maybe should pay me as compensation for harassing me for over a week across multiple platforms - wasting my time, energy and attention. Nah, for him, what matters are *his* ~feelings~. His sensitive rich white boy ~feelings~ just won’t let him pay a woman of color that is significantly disenfranchised in comparison to him. Fuck *my* time and energy that he’s wasting, also fuck my economic reality that he’s detrimentally impacting by wasting my time, because y’know, his ~feels~. I’m dumbfounded that a man could spend an entire opening paragraph of a message explaining why he won’t pay you, but then turns right around and asks you to be kind and unblock him so he can continue to have access to you and your content.
you know what blows me out of the water about this part? After writing a long ass, self excusing message to a woman who has him blocked across multiple networks, he has the nerve to tack on his empty sorries about my brother onto the end of his message, like the afterthought they are to him. A person of any solid character would’ve either fucked off a long time ago, or opened with a profuse apology that includes how dumb and selfish they feel for harassing me to coddle them through a breakup while my little brother is on trial for attempted murder. But as we know, fuckboys are not persons of solid character, fuckboys gonna fuckboy.